As I get older, I find myself becoming more spiritual and philosophical about life. I not only think about how we do things, but why. What is our motivation? What is our end game? When I am in the mood to expand my horizons and gain wisdom I turn to Wayne Dyer. He has written over 30 books and has numerous videos on YouTube lasting from 15 minutes to 2 hours. He has this one quote that has always resonated with me. It says, “Do you choose to be right or choose to be kind?” Everything you do in life is a choice. Which do you choose?
Choosing to be right all the time satisfies the ego and nothing more. It is some type of self gratification that you are smarter than the other guy. It can be an expression of power that you exert over another individual. But what does that serve? You were right. OK. So what? Is your ego that sensitive that you must assert yourself at the cost of belittling someone else? I have a theory that these types of people were “A” students in school, and they continue with that mindset, but there are no report cards coming at the end of the semester.
The report card you get are the hard feelings you may get in return. If you constantly choose being right over kindness you will have earned the reputation as a know-it-all or a snob. Is it worth it? You catch more flies with honey. Kindness has far more benefits for all concerned.
Try building someone up instead of tearing someone down. If someone expresses a point of view that you know is blatantly wrong instead of shooting them down, ask them why they think that way. After listening to them fully and completely ask them if they have ever thought of doing this. You have heard their point of view in a respectful way, and you have corrected them without belittling them or making them feel inadequate.
Kindness builds bridges. It breeds a feeling of mutual cooperation and respect. It is a way of educating without belittling. Your point will be made and will be received positively. It either starts a relationship on a positive note or enhances an existing one. It also makes it easier for future discussions. Your point of view will be heard and received with an open mind.
Choosing to be right or choosing to be kind comes under the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. How would you like to be treated? If someone was to correct you on a point, how would you like them to do it? Would you want to be dismissed, abruptly shut down, ridiculed or made fun of? Or, would you want them to be sincere and kind, listening to your viewpoint and then hearing why their answer is correct? Coose kindness.
Wayne Dyer has many books on spirituality, philosophy, and wisdom and I highly recommend him. Two of my favourites are “There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem” and “Wisdom for the Ages”. I have read both books several times and I have highlighted passages that I review constantly. If you are looking to broaden your horizons or are looking for wisdom, I highly endorse Wayne Dyer’s work.
Here’s to your path of wisdom and spirituality.
Cheers,
Al